Friday, July 29, 2005

Bedtime Blues

HELP!! I am so mad tonight. I feel like it is a struggle every night to get my kids to bed. They are night owls and I need them to be in bed. Reid really tried my patience tonight and I don't really know how to handle it right now. He wanted to watch a movie at 10:00 (after being sick all day, again) and I said no and the tears started to flow........It makes me feel like a terrible mom. Is it bad that I need a little "me" time?? Maybe I need to go back and read "The Strong Willed Child" for the millionth time. :)

Sorry....had to vent.........

6 comments:

Lynn said...

No.....you NEED your down time. I remember how hard it is to get some kids to bed. I had one (hmmmm) who used to fall asleep sitting up at the table while we watched the 10 o'clock news ignoring she was there. Habits are hard to break and once school gets started you will have a really good reason to enforce bedtime.....no exceptions. Set the kitchen timer and after that no water, snacks, etc......they will learn. By the way, you are a wonderfully patient and loving mom. They know that too. One other thing that is hard for you to imagine at this stage of your life is that someday your house will be quiet and you will have more down time than you know what to do with. LOVE YOU....Mom

Heather said...

Thanks Mom...I needed that....I love you!

jodyreese said...

Okay, Heather...I am the mother of 3 night owls, and boy do I know how you need some down time...you know how I get in the bathtub and stay there and hour or two??? Well, that's when that began!! HA! Of course you are doing the right thing...and the right thing is rarely easy. Plus our precious children know how to make us feel guilty...so I say sit down with Reid and explain what you need and why and let him help you decide (with you of course in charge) a bedtime..then maybe he will feel a little bit like he had some say in the matter. Then of course you have to enforce it consistently (the hard part...)..Your mom is right,though, that school is coming and that will be so important then to get them in bed...We think you are the greatest mom...Love you, Jody

Heather said...

Thanks Jo-Jo....I didn't mean to sound so pitiful...hahaha...but you really made me feel better! I'm so thankful to have you and Mom give me such good advice. Sometimes I feel like I'm gonna pull my hair out so it's nice to have you all in my corner!! Love you...

Giggi said...

oh heather, i love your blog. you are a great mom! i also had night owls, and for some reason i thought it was so much harder to be firm at night. maybe i was just too tired to stick to it then. of course i didn't mind it when they slept till noon either! maybe a little connection there. i remember laying down with with whitney, and always i would be the one who fell asleep. i would usually wake up with her legs locked around me, because she thought i would have to stay then. now i find her in the morning with the cordless phone (out of battery of course) as well as her cell phone. who knows when she fell asleep! she is so grown up - almost 15. hang in there girl. you're doing a great job, and your kids know what really matters because you model it for them everyday. love you, aunt kathy

Heather said...

FaFa--I'm so glad you found my blog!! And yes, Whit and Macy remind me alot of each other...in many ways!! Macy also wraps her legs and arms around me just in case I might sneek out! I enjoy those times but also wish that when I said it was bedtime that my kids would say "yes, maam" and just GO TO BED!! ha ha ha I know....wishful thinking!

I am so blessed to have aunts who love me and are always there for me! I miss you and hope to see you real soon! Love, Love. Love!!